tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1299053910466115973.post7946718864906488463..comments2023-09-01T07:19:15.302-04:00Comments on Avid Writer: James Chartrand is a Woman? It's Complicated AlrightKimberly Benhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08163102442191692386noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1299053910466115973.post-33468271139744646162009-12-29T03:00:49.926-05:002009-12-29T03:00:49.926-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Blog Writinghttp://creativelipi.com/services.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1299053910466115973.post-22514750793451792082009-12-16T12:11:53.024-05:002009-12-16T12:11:53.024-05:00Lori, I love your attitude. We need more people in...Lori, I love your attitude. We need more people in the world like you.<3Kimberly Benhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08163102442191692386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1299053910466115973.post-23606421141052481232009-12-16T10:24:44.239-05:002009-12-16T10:24:44.239-05:00That's one of my favorite sayings - It is what...That's one of my favorite sayings - It is what it is. :)<br /><br />What rattles is that the victimization, in many cases, can be halted if the victimizer is refused a victim. In other words, stand up for ourselves and stop crying "Poor us!" If we refuse to accept shoddy behavior, eventually someone's going to "get" it and that's one less person holding on to ridiculous stereotypes.<br /><br />I hear you on the hijab and the stereotypes! We frequently host meditation monks in our home. The neighbors (posh neighborhood) just avoid us. Too many orange-clad dudes for the conservative crowd! LOL We have plenty of cultures and nationalities trotting through our house throughout the year. I think it makes our lives much richer, and I feel blessed by the opportunity to know so many spiritual people.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18045985667596964511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1299053910466115973.post-64526376445467051582009-12-15T21:35:43.407-05:002009-12-15T21:35:43.407-05:00Lori, I can't wait to read you post. You hit t...Lori, I can't wait to read you post. You hit the nail on the head with this one. <br /><br />I'll be completely honest - one reason I've never thought much of gender bias is because of all the other possible bias I might have to face. Being African-American and Muslim is more than enough without tossing in the fact that I'm a female to boot, Lol. Being that I wear hijab, you should see the people who look past/through me to speak directly to my husband when we are out making a purchase (it's even funnier when he steps aside and tells them to talk to "the boss" and points to me). But I don't look at it so much as an obstacle to overcome. <br /><br />It is what it is, I am who I am and I know exactly what I'm capable of personally and professionally. What's sad is that's not always enough for everyone else. James is clear proof of that.Kimberly Benhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08163102442191692386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1299053910466115973.post-63499807689318911212009-12-15T17:21:51.930-05:002009-12-15T17:21:51.930-05:00Actually, this topic is the very thing I have for ...Actually, this topic is the very thing I have for tomorrow. :)<br /><br />My sister and I discussed it, too. She said when she's getting a hassle from a company, she puts her husband on the phone. Instantly, without his even uttering a word different from hers, problems are solved.<br /><br />There is a gender bias, but it's two-sided. We women categorize men in much the same way, though I don't think they're getting paid less for it. And we categorize ethnic groups, age groups, etc. I stood up for a Spanish-speaking guy who was getting verbally abused by, of all people, the customer service rep at the local store. Her comments to him - learn to speak English - landed her in hot water with her company, because guess who wrote them a letter (I'm a trouble maker)? Her intolerance isn't new, nor is it rare. But that's one more person educated. That man spends money just like I do. Treat him with respect.<br /><br />I don't understand the backlash (although mild) from those who felt James betrayed their trust. No, James protected her earning potential and her career choices. And it's a damn sad thing that she had to pretend to be a man in order to be taken seriously. The real crime here is how society treated her as a woman.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18045985667596964511noreply@blogger.com